Seenathome.

There is a lot of conversation about sharing housework. Most of it counts the chores: who cooked, who cleaned, who did the school run. Very little of it counts the other layer: noticing the milk is low, remembering the vaccinations, planning the week before anyone asks what's for dinner.

Household work has two layers. The doing, and the managing: the thinking, planning, and making-sure-it-happens. The person who carries the managing layer is often doing the most work, and it is the least seen.

Seenathome is a small web app that records both layers. You log what happened in your home, how long it took, and who carried the thinking behind it. The app turns those entries into a picture of your household's load: how the work splits between mental, physical, and emotional, and how much you orchestrated without doing yourself. It runs in your phone's browser. Nothing to install.

The managing layer rarely shows up in conversations about fairness at home, because it has no record. It happens in your head, between other things, and leaves no trace except that everything got done.

What looks like a household running well is often one person holding the entire map of it. This is not a personal failing, and it is not a personality trait. It is a structure. Naming it is the first step to changing it, and you cannot name what you cannot see.

Seenathome gives that work a record. Built first for women in heteronormative relationships, because that is where the managing layer most often concentrates. A partner can join and log too, and the app compares only the period you both share. But it works on its own. Whether a partner joins is not the point. Seeing your own load clearly is.

This is part of my research on unpaid care and how households organise work, and I built it myself, with AI tools, as a working answer to a question I keep writing about: what would it take to make this work count?

The work does not disappear when no one sees it. It just goes uncounted.